excerpt of “coming home” (w/ her permission to link):
Even in queer spaces, my disability often rules because it is unabashedly in your face and unapologetic. The challenge then is to figure out how to become a disabled queer. I have tried to become simply fully queer, but the only way I really understand my sexuality is through the lens of disability. For a long time this made me feel like a bad queer – that somehow I was less if I couldn’t understand and relate to my queerness on its own terms and as its own entity, but then, I guess that’s one of the lingering hallmarks of marginalization. Now I realize that it isn’t necessarily that I was disabled first, but that it was what I understood first – and felt the need to make sense of first. Being a good crip doesn’t make me a bad queer, and while the politics of passing are both sensitive and complicated, how people read me does not make me a more or less legitimate member of the community.”
Read the rest here.